In a world that often demands we choose between strength and sensitivity, confidence and humility, I’ve learned we can be both. Leadership is evolving. And women—especially those of us who didn’t grow up with silver spoons or high-powered networks—are reshaping what it means to lead. We’re rewriting the rules with grit, grace, and groundedness. I think of women like Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Michelle Obama, and Megan Rapinoe—each rising from humble beginnings, each bringing their full selves into spaces where they weren’t always welcomed. They didn’t wait for permission. They led anyway. Not with ego, but with deep conviction.
And then there’s Sheryl Sandberg. While she may not have come from modest means, her influence is undeniable. She changed the global conversation about women in leadership, bringing forward topics like imposter syndrome, psychological safety, and representation. Her upbringing, grounded in Jewish values and standing up for human rights, shaped by strong female role models, instilled in her the importance of community, education, and owning your seat at the table.
Finding Center in the Chaos
My story started on a farm in Michigan, raised by my paternal Polish grandparents—products of the Great Depression—who taught me about self-reliance, community, and doing the hard things with grace (at least I tried to) – thank you grandpa. By ten, I was driving a tractor. By my early 20s, I owned my first home, held a degree in environmental and computer science, and was working in tech. Eventually, I would race mountain bikes professionally, lead global teams, live around the world, earn a master’s degree, and found a consulting firm that supports leaders across continents and industries.
But here’s the thread through it all: I’ve always had a gift for bringing balance to chaos. I’ve always shown up as “my whole self” – being a woman is just one component of who I am.
Whether I was navigating corporate transformations at Fortune 100s or bombing down a mountain at 40mph, I learned to stay centered—especially when the pressure is high and people are counting on you. That’s when real leadership shows up, in the ability to be present.
Lessons from Women Who Inspire Me
Ruth Bader Ginsburg: With quiet persistence and unwavering purpose, she shifted the landscape of justice. Key Insight: You don’t have to be loud to lead big.
Michelle Obama: She showed us that dignity and fire can co-exist—and that our roots don’t define our limits. Key Insight: Authenticity is your power.
Sheryl Sandberg: She gave voice to imposter syndrome and encouraged women to sit at the table—and stay there. Key Insight: Presence opens doors, but preparation earns trust.
Megan Rapinoe: She leads with conviction, showing that excellence and advocacy aren’t separate paths. Key Insight: Confidence comes from knowing who you are.
Five Strategies That Have Shaped My Journey
1. Lead from your core– When you know what you stand for, decisions become clearer.
2. Say yes to discomfort– Growth never comes in the comfort zone.
3. Redefine balance– For me, it’s not about equal time—it’s about intentional energy.
4. Find your people– The right circle doesn’t just support you; they challenge you to rise.
5. Be your own blueprint – Leadership doesn’t come with a mold. Make your own.
Final Thought
You don’t need to have it all figured out to be a great leader. But you do need to know who you are, what matters, and how to show up when it counts.
Leadership isn’t about being fearless (well, sometimes). It’s about being present. It’s about creating calm in the storm—and being trusted to make the right call when others are holding their breath. Women like us don’t just lead. We redefine leadership and authenticity every single day.
